Stress and Suicide An Irrational Relationship

Stress and Suicide

An

Irrational Relationship

When somebody kills himself that is called suicide. It is so definite, clear, no confusion, once a liver has been pulled, there is corpse only. Thereafter, there are no ifs and buts the way is clear to the graveyard.  People murmur for sometimes: then the curtain falls: people now and then refer to good deeds but always say that he committed suicide.

Initially life was created by nature, the God, the Creator himself as a replica of Himself of peace, tranquility, love affection, full of joy, happiness, appreciation of beauty, kindness, compassion etcetera. Creation is such a wonderful feeling and more so when a human being happens to be created. Even God felt so amused when he created human. Subsequently, this function was given to male and female species, but even now there are many species beyond sex. Life is love, so beautiful a feeling, man lives for. Great men have described life the way they felt, some as below:

“He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals.”                                                                                 – Benjamin Franklin

“I think being in love with life is a key to eternal youth.”                                                                                    —Doug Hutchison

“If life were predictable it would cease to be life, and be without flavor.”                                                     —Eleanor Roosevelt

“All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.”                                                     —Ralph Waldo Emerson

“All of life is peaks and valleys. Don’t let the peaks get too high and the valleys too low.”

                                                                       —John Wooden

However difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at.”

                                                                 —Stephen Hawking

“I enjoy life when things are happening. I don’t care if it’s good things or bad things. That means you’re alive.”                                                                                                          —Joan Rivers

When difficulties and issues, the part of life, occur don’t run or be afraid of; as the great said:

“I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter.”                                                                                           —Walt Disney

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.”

                                                                         –Helen Keller

Despite so much said and written, suicides do take.  How is it that a rational mind becomes totally irrational for a few moments that he himself pulls the liver? It has always been split second decision. Many retrace their last step; start life afresh; retracing steps is possible only in normal human beings. Real cause always gets buried with the victim leaving behind the guess and grief.

Man is a part and parcel of the Universe-always expanding and contracting itself. Stars, planets and even their satellites have their influence on life everywhere in the Universe and we are just one of the species. Science has not been able to answer whether the Universe is expanding more or contracting more, or has reached its limits; but it appears it is expanding more as we have seen changes on the earth where everybody is gathering, our behavior has to be in tune with the behavior of the Universe. Nature always continue to expend and vibrant full of life and activity.

Some stars everyday consume their own energy become dark and deep, consuming everything coming in contact and their way, they suck, soak and sever. They are called Black Holes by humans. They have their system - only the destruction and dominance. They destroy, take inside, everything: what further happens, science is still to find an answer. Whosoever living, non-living comes under the influence of such black-holes his behavior changes where everything is turned mysterious; when a human being is influenced, his behavior is mysterious; suicide is one of the manifestations of that erratic influence, when the individual becomes totally introvert-keeping everything to himself and destroying everything even the positive thoughts, like black hole.

Black-hole is one type of destruction. Possibility of other types cannot the ruled out – others might be to burst into pieces as we see at night, still some burn themselves become heaps of ash moving in the Universe. There is lot of haze in between stars, engulfing others whose gravity is strong enough, not even to allow the ash to go away. Water or like; might be moving from one planet to other and Indian scriptures do talk of Indian river Ganga having been brought to sub-continent from space. Once whole of the Earth was engulfed by water destroying whole of the civilization on the planet and this may not be far away once again as the Globe is warming up and if all the ice all over melts than possibility of earth being engulfed again by water can’t be ruled out. Gravity between stars is one type of behaviors, what are the other types is unknown; are stars violent also; do they change their gait and direction: do they fight like animals and men, we have limited knowledge only up to calculable distance but universe has no limit, so are the directions of conduct of the stars.

As behavior of the some stars is unpredictable so is the behavior of man under the influence of such when he commits suicide.

All living beings are supposed to be made of five elements-Water, Air, Fire, Earth and Space (Akash in Hindi and Sky in English) above where Lord Lives Heaven (Baikunth in Hindi in Indian scriptures) and on death they are supposed merge back with these  five eternal elements. These elements must remain in equilibrium for person to remain healthy and rational. Imbalance of these creates illness and disturbs the mind.

There is another element that is important-Paatal (Hindi word), the deepest place on the earth (literal translation) one may also call it Hell (Narak in Hindi in Indian scriptures) - Core of Earth- scientifically consisting mercury- heaviest of metals and Iron, and as per Indian scriptures Naag Lok –the world of serpents, obviously full of venom. Some venom even on earth crust are so strong that even their smell is fatal, death due to introduction of venom in the blood stream is common.

It is anybody’s guess what we would encounter before reaching this core. As all stars and planets have influence on our health and thinking so the earth and its interior has. People are very well aware about the effect of earth crust on our health, wisdom and living. Whenever a person comes under influence of Paatal his thinking goes dark, deep without clarity as to where he is going, full of venom. The influence of Paatal Lok introduces irrationality adding to negativity and hence extreme step of suicide.

Negative and positive energy: All living things on this earth radiate constantly outward energy. This energy is generated by emotions. Negative Energies are generated by emotions not desirable to people which express; sadness, anger, hate, fear, stress, greed, jealousy, selfishness, pain, etc. The positive energies are creations of emotions like love, happiness, joy, pleasure, forgiveness, generosity, compassion, kindness, gratitude, hope, peace, calmness, silence, romance, solace, prayer, sex etcetera. Negative energies multiply at a pace far more than at which positive energy multiply. They also fail Newton’s law which says action and reactions are equal and opposite. Reactions of negative energies always have a multiplying factor more than one. When a person is under the influence of negative energies he has to be under stress which adds to the suicidal tendencies.

Another reason for suicide is depression. Different people interpret depression differently. Depression is total blockade of rational thinking by irrational thoughts, actions, opinions, negativity and absence of rational men in surroundings. The victim goes down & deep with worst extremes of every move going against him. He discusses, deliberates and concludes himself and alone. He sees only the black, other colours of life get absorbed in it. It is only when the situation is extensive & extreme that he takes the last step he thinks would relieve him. Suicide is often an act committed when emotions are very strong and life stresses extreme, rather than an act of careful consideration.

Depression can emanate from any act in life like ending a romantic relationship, unable to have steady income, loss of social position, academic failure, sexual orientation, bullying, shaming, being arrested or imprisoned and even from losing a simple academic or family discussion. It all depends on how sensitive, irrational, touchy, worldly-wise you are and how you respect others opinions & wisdom. When the mind is dark, it is hard to see any possibility for happiness, but it can and often does – get better; whether through treatment, meditation, exercise, eating well, getting into a routine, or setting goals, romance etcetera. Such steps do help to recover from feelings of depression, and suicidal thoughts. Every one under depression must realize or be made to; that he is complete Universe in himself and so the possibilities are unlimited.

Extreme anger is another cause. When angry some people are really like burning charcoal-that has only two colours that is red and black. Their face, eyes, lips, tongue, ears all are red like fire and their brain and mind irrational signifying black colour. They are ready to do anything, to prove their point apparently wrong one. In a fit of anger they sometime commit suicide.

Love is most important human emotion. Hate and dislikes are opposites. In Indian context for example, daughter-in-law and mother-in-law relations sometimes are marked by excessive hate and are one of reason for increase in old-age homes in the recent years. Hate-extreme coupled with inability to terminate the relationship sometimes leads to spur of a moment action.

Psychological disorders do contribute their share to suicides world over. It is law of nature that nobody can be at the top always; he has to climb down to make space for the new generation or they would be forced to climb down. Although this climb down is a natural process, many are unable to absorb it calmly. They become self-centered, isolated, away from social life-which for obvious reasons changes with the climb down and at the same time they are unable to live with or enjoy solitude and hence are dragged to extreme step.

Some suicides remain unexplained no reason just as if it were an act of nature. Sometimes they look like acts of supernatural powers-which many do not believe: still some beliefs are prevalent in almost all countries and civilizations past and present world over.

Violence or cruelty in human nature or in the way one earns his living or being a dictator-not a political one, is also a cause of suicide. The world has seen that many of the political dictators ended their lives in that violent manner. In normal life this refers to being not considerate to others. Some illegal profession use violence to carry on and those who profess are always near to it and many a times end their life in that violent manner.

Deception is another cause of suicide; where in people are lured killed and made to look like suicide so clean and perfect that are termed, treated and closed as cases of suicide.

Self-guilt in other words guilty conscious, when confronted with self in moments of sanity, many a times is the cause of suicide, for example flesh trade, extortion etcetera, it is easy to get in but very difficult rather impossible  to get out and when realization dawns, they suck a person to suicide.    

The strongest wall against suicidal tendencies is the strength of one’s character which a unique culmination of one’s genes and values given, brought up in and acquired.

Another rock solid is the realization that all living being are happy when they are in a group. Now with passage of time, human groups like family, neighbours, relatives, friends, society, village-Indian concept of Mera Gaon etc. are getting smaller and distant hence the stress related issues have multiplied. This has reduced the space to upon up tremendously hence increase of introverts. Modern living has made the man to feel alone in the crowd around. He is surrounded by gadgets, buttons, black mouse, screens, virtuals and all lifelesses: away from nature and his men, hence the gloom.   

Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle. – Christian D. Larson

Suicide doesn’t end the chances of life getting worse, it eliminates the possibility of it ever getting any better. – Unknown

“I am the beginning, middle and the end”

Lord Krishna in Bhagavad Gita.

Where is the question of Suicide, NOWHERE?