Stress
Keep Calm and Kill
Stress
“Life is ten percent,
what you experience and
ninety percent how
you respond to it.”
– Dorothy M.
Neddermeyer
While travelling by
air, many a times the pilots, make an announcement that we are passing through
turbulent weather, please keep your calm, be relaxed, do not worry, we are here
to take care; air hostess announces, it is normal: we are here to serve and to keep
you safe: by the time she finishes sweet nothings with passengers the plane is
sailing smooth: pilot makes statement of restoration of peace everybody is
happy. Despite such reassurance from the pilot and the cabin crew, some
passengers are not able to maintain calm and are under stress knowing fully well,
the fact that they have absolutely no control on the weather as well as on the
aero plane. One must try to control what he can do: his inside, his emotions,
feelings, their expression outside and utterings.
“You can’t always
control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside.”
– Wayne Dyer
Calm signifies peaceful, quiet, or relaxed, cool, harmonious;
without hurried movement, anxiety, or noise and some real thing inside-the way
one feels and reacts. In my native language Punjabi, people normally say “Thand
Rakh” (Keep Cool), vertical index finger on the lips is a gesture to other
party to remain calm and not to say anything. Calm your-self with no noise mind
and thinking: create a vacuum: see the peace and solace it gives: experience
the Godly chill: an attempt to meet Him: may be a glimpse special: will have
His blessings and internal contentment too.
Calmness slows down if not stop the sharp reaction from
the other party.
It is a positivity that helps us to counter negativity makes the others to
think in a rational manner: that is what the purpose of calmness is. Life is
peace not the anger that is what the God has made us for.
Calmness is a character trait of an individual; everybody can’t
keep calm in difficult and unforeseen situations. In fact, to be under stress
and anger is a normal with all human beings and even with animals. Nature also
agitates when troubled beyond limits. Calmness and turbulence are inbuilt
qualities of the system Lord has created. Discipline and decorum are the
principles the natures moves with.
Calmness is firstly dictated by the fact, how much
control one has over the situation; more the control more the calmness: one is
aware of the situation an incident can create and how to control it: has
experienced it earlier: if yes, he has knowledge of normal end product, so
lesser under stress however exceptions are always there and no system can rule
them out biggest mishaps have in the most perfect system created by science:
always understand we are human beings with a super computer that reacts faster
than the human made ones.
Strength of character is an issue that helps a person to
keep calm.
Building of strength of character starts even before one is born, the building block:
the DNA we are made of is the first brick: who were our ancestors this goes up
to seventh generation and even beyond. Sometimes people have exceptional
qualities dictated by generations far away because of travel of genes. Hence
the tribe and clan are important to an individual and his character: the fast
deteriorating aspect of society world over but still present in our veins and
will always remain.
The atmosphere, climate, circumstances, environment,
love, affection,
care, insecurity, in which one is brought up is the second important factor to
determine one’s response to the turbulence. Those who have seen rough and tough
weather: managed their life themselves: have the taken decision and are
determined, toiled with the soil, while sailing in the boat of life are more
normal and are able to keep calm in turbulent situations.
Society, the people, next door man his attitude and
nature helps us
in dealing with a situation: they give us a confidence of human presence and
more so when they are helpful; it generally happens barring a few exceptions
which are more now in metropolitans than in small downs. More the excellence of
neighbourhood human relations better is our response to exceptional situations.
Be a good neighbuor and a part of helping society.
The place where we are, is a booster or damper of
feeling and expression of calmness. Familiar the place is more is calmness and
a man feels stress in new land. No doubt people shift to greener pastures but
they remain second rate citizens for years together and hence under stress as
they land does not belong to them they are aliens there.
Education-school colleges are sources of making us aware
of a systematic knowledge,
they add to our confidence level, knowledge, skill and equip us with experience
of others, awareness and inter-action with others: that arms us against the
future odds in life. It adds to one’s faculties.
Life is not always that systematic and smooth it is mixture of
ups and downs: awareness and response to the surroundings, learning from
experience of others and adopting lessons, makes the difference: an individual
need not commit all the mistakes: in fact, all the mistakes have already been
committed earlier, there is no new mistake that one can commit: so learning
instinct is another important factor in developing the trait of calmness in
one’s character and how to deal with abnormal: learning is perennial: never
stop your search for the new.
Ego and superiority complex are always seen in bad light and if they are
hollow based can do irreparable damage to any situation even the normal ones.
Keeping near the reality without any complexes is always helpful in correct
assessment of the situation and circumstances: be with the real, the truth
noting artificial and remain calm.
Step back is need be do not hesitate: it is an asset:
everybody cannot step back: only the bold, educated, wise and prudent can: be
in that category: not be obstinate and falsely right: it does not make a wrong
a right: error becomes a mistake if you do not admit: admission leads to a
solution and hence lessor the stress.
A question is not an answer: it keeps the problem burning rather makes it
red hot: never answer a question with a counter question. Be a part of the
answer, solution, brainstorming, suggestions may be odd and different-they
contain the solution.
Tackle a situation not the man or the author Man is not
important: situation is: concentrate and imagine about: imagination that
greatest of the resources: possibility of a solution nearby be explored: that
is ours present and where we are that is important not those far away and could
be brought to help us.
Nobody is inferior. He made us all equal. No doubt some
are his special children. When in difficult phase make everybody safe and
listen that would enhance the feeling of calmness all round: together we can do
things unheard of.
How over-sensitive one is-how quickly one reacts
with a negative answer even before the question is completed. This is the trait
which is corollary of ego and superiority complex. More this trait means, lower
the capacity to remain calm even in simple situations which do not require even
a response. Do not carry bricks from the old house to make the new one. Let
there be a new beginning with jest and zeal, happiness and joy, let there be
right all over but no rights enforced and dictated.
“Do not learn how to react. Learn how to
respond.”—Buddha
We learn speaking as soon as we are born and if we don’t
speak Doctors make us to speak with a lovely slap and only then the celebration
starts: we speak and speak loudly, may not be a language whose time is still to
come. One must speak at the opportune time and give a right response and
solutions to the problems. One should speak in such a way that others like to
listen that would be effective not only to keep your calm but also to help
others to remain calm.
Speaking alone is not sufficient; there should be
somebody to listen and respond; if nobody listens, speaking is all waste. So
listening is more important. Listening is a skill which is not taught in any
university of the world. It is much more difficult; one has to develop it
himself; it requires patience, respect, regards and obedience sense: more these
factors better is listening that leads to better chances of remaining calm,
confident lesser adverse effects.
Spirituality: our faith: we bow: They
listen what we even don’t speak: our inner soul and conscience: our link with
Him the Almighty: Pure Truth: White and transparent; our belief without an iota
of doubt. It is fountain of courage and confidence. How much one believes and
have faith in Him enables us to remain calm in situations that appear
unsurmountable. Nearer to Him farther
from adversaries the dictum all of us believe.
Maintains calm and composure in difficult situations: that was the
clause used to be mentioned in the annual confidential reports of the
Government servants and the reporting officers were required to give their assessment
for the respective official. Thus not only the calm one has to maintain, but he
has also to reflect that calm in his posture: otherwise face is index to mind
that would expose what is running inside a person. Even if one is under stress
he should not allow it to be reflected neither on his face nor in his body
language that would be more beneficial to the situation and the person also.
Be like a duck. Calm on the surface, but always paddling
like the dickens underneath.
Michael Caine
Calm even for a few minutes may be forced one, is an
asset:
it provides firstly some time: to watch the situation: brain runs much faster
than physique-gives you pros and cons, alternatives, profits and losses,
respects and regards and equips with means to tackle the situation in more
solid and effective way.
When adversity
strikes, that's when you have to be the most calm. Take a step back, stay
strong, stay grounded and press on.
LL Cool J
Remain calm, serene, always in command of yourself. You
will then find out how easy it is to get along.
Paramahansa Yogananda
A few minutes gained are also effective; in studying the
mind and actions of other person and consequences of situation and
circumstances that may enhance the effectiveness of one’s response that may be
more reasonable and logical to disarm the other person and control the adverse
circumstances. Because “Raise your words,
not your voice. It is rain
that grows flowers, not thunder.”—Rumi
Timely action is key to success in any difficult and problematic
situation: one must first ensure appropriate and correct knowledge of the means
and action to defuse the stressful situation.
Do not panic because it not only creates but also complicates the problems. Try
to end anger and frustration and try to find inner peace and calmness. Over
throw the physical and emotional symptoms of being burnt out. Be calm and
composed.
“Just slow down. Slow down your speech. Slow
down your breathing. Slow down your walking. Slow down your eating. And let
this slower, steadier pace perfume your mind. Just slow down.”
Doko
People miss their share of happiness, not because that
never found it, but because they did not stop to enjoy it.
William Feather
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