Stress and Joy of Romance at75+

     

       Stress and Joy of Romance at75+                    

 

                         When you love simply love.                        

Osho,

 

Respect yourself, love yourself, because there has never been a person like you and there never will be again.

Osho

 

Romance is the most romantic word ever coined in the English language: it makes the bells to ring without the bells; it is an excitement unto himself; it is motivation to reach, to bluff, to spend,

to groom, to do, to be alone, to be sensitive, to promise, to enjoy, to possess, to perform, to see which no one else can see, to talk which others can’t hear and be one and so many other things impossible to name and even imagine. It is magic supreme. It makes one to jump from a cozy quilt in cold winter morning may be of Ladakh and in hot summer noon to walks miles in hot burning sand of desert even of  Thar or Sahara. It is a wonder nobody else sees, but makes one fresh, vibrant and jumping from inside. It is something new and special for everyone every time always. Still there are others who define it as a love affair between a male and a female always sweet. One may say whatever he likes but it is the most wonderful aspect of human existence on this blue planet, it is godly, natural, universal and omnipresent.

 

Romance was born even before the day the Universe came into existence; there has been “urge to create” active in the space the greatest of the creators and a repository of all seeds of creation and is still creating much beyond the imagination of human mind and thinking. It the “Braham” as per Hindu scriptures, the fountain of all creations anywhere and everywhere, was so intense that once it started to create there is nothing to stop. “Urge to create” is romance and it has created such a beautiful identity which we with limited knowledge and wisdom call it world, its creations are infinite and beautiful.

 

Nature creates and initially it created without the “seed” the most imaging things the greatest wonders ever heard. It is most surprising that most beautiful creatures came into existence without the “seed”. It is only He can do.  Now there is seed for everything as we see and know, but what the nature is still creating and would create in future cannot be guessed perhaps it would continue to follow its old path of creation without a seed and something new and fresh.

 

Such a wonderful phenomenon; how the humans can remain away from it, when they themselves are part of the Universe and the “beyond” not named so far. Romance is in the veins of everything that is alive and non-living too, like soil, even desert creates beautiful red coloured silky insects humans like to touch: “Veerbouti” in Pubjabi language, life is there in the dark cold depths of sea and also on snow clad minus temperature peaks of Alps and Himalayas. Life is just one thing that emanates from romance.    

 

Man the exceptional creation resembling the Lord as we perceive, is unique, every person is unique so creations of everybody are also unique and every person recognizes this knowingly or unknowingly. So one has to be romantic with himself first, we see everybody daily asks the mirror how he looks. Life is born out of romance, for romance always and keep the romance alive always. We in the so called civilized world make arrangements for our family members to continue to enjoy romance. Animals also romance and enjoy it to their brim but they are slightly better in the romantic behavior compared to the man and we the human beings despite the social restrictions want the same freedom for romance as the animals have.  

 

Man is romantic from the day he is born and remains romantic most during his youth. How he can remain away from romance in his old age whether it is seventy, eighty or ninety. It is just impossible and fact is a man is always romantic till he merges with five elements of which he is created.

 

In fact consumption and romance are the two important aspects of our existence on the earth: of the two, romance is more important: need for consumption arises out of romance only.

 

Fact of the matter is that most of people consider romance as love for opposite sex. This is very limited and restricted meaning of romance. Even if it is so, romance is the essence of life and it has to be active rather more active in the old age when most of the oldies are alone for one reason or the other.

 

Relish love in your old age! Aged love is like aged wine; it becomes more satisfying, more refreshing, more valuable, more appreciated and more intoxicating!

                                                                        Leo Buscaglia

 

Love for one’s spouse gives one the reason to live, to enjoy and it is a fact that the youth comes to everybody only once but goes out of life of those who are not in love with their spouse; others are always youthful. Spouse the most wonderful relation the society has created he walks with you whole life through thick and thin, enjoys and grieves along, produces off springs and rears them too  so both have to be romantic with each other explicitly and implicitly too.

 

Those who love deeply never grow old: they may die of old age but they die young.                           

                                                                    Benjamin Franklin

 

Romance is much deeper and wider than love, lust, physical attraction and sex. It is holy, pious, creative, godly, most humble and sophisticated act. It does not limit itself to one act or person. It is difficult rather impossible to think about the dimensions of romance. Very limited dimensions are known to common people also to those whom they consider wise.

 

Oldies in the evening of life, for obvious reasons, have limited dimensions to enjoy or express romance so far as physique is concerned but they open up other fields. Most commonly seen is that they are very quick to relate every event to what they created in their life earlier, they have the past and the narration takes them to days when they were active in the field of creation, it gives them joy they relish, so never stop them just listen even if it is repetitive, it is the question of romance for the oldies.

 

Physical love has some natural restrictions but its dimensions are innumerable so many of the oldies are lively and they enjoy sex in its variety, wisdom, expression, reach, occasion, time and physique too. They remain bubbling with life.  People say chemistry of male and female in a movie is wonderful, what is that chemistry: it simply means that they are behaving in the most natural way. Obviously all objects are made to behave in natural way, whenever the behavior is unnatural our senses are too quick to point it out. Oldies are no exception; they have to be natural in the behavior so far as the romance as ordinarily known is concerned, many a times people appreciate the love and romance between oldies: still there are many who in a sarcastic and contemptuous way call them “Tharky” in Punjabi language: such critics perhaps do not know that life and romance are two sides of the same coin of our existence on this planet.

 

Romance you may call it sex or love for the opposite sex in its limited meaning is a wonderful remedy to keep many diseases away particularly the stress and depression as it makes one mentally alert and physically active: gives one the plan to execute and a goal to reach. It helps to keep your heart healthy and blood pressure under control, gives good sleep after the act and some say it helps to ward off prostate problems also and builds and improves immunity. In fact it is tonic for physical and mental health.  

 

Romance keeps one engaged always mentally that way it is mental exercise which so important for the persons who have spent their life in analyzing, preparing notes, examination of the proposals and problems, making suggestion to control and correct the ill situations as such romance  saves people from mental illness and still serious things like Parkinson.

 

Urge to create was present in the space, obviously much before the Universe was created and still being created and as soon as conditions were ripe enough it happened and Universe came into being. It is difficult to imagine the amount of bliss, solace, satisfaction, quench the power that created “urge to create” must have felt when it saw the Universe for the first time. Romance is that little amount of urge to create that has been showered by the powers in the Universe on the man and other creations. When the Creator Supreme got the bliss, solace and satisfaction out of urge to create, it is absolutely true that we his creations are bound to get at least a glimpse of these super things from romance. Sex is the most rude form of romance, however human beings experience it richly in their life time, they want again and again, reason being it has a trace of what the Supreme felt when Universe happened.

 

Refined forms of romance give you much more than that “trace”. It is impossible to enumerate the forms that romance can take. It is the intensity that matters most and it can be from the smallest or the tiniest happening, object or a thing. In addition to physical sex and past achievements, romance in old age can take countless forms. Most commonly romantic fields are cooking, the dish they prepare is extra-ordinary, routine they follow, literature writing of songs and poems, Internet browsing, listening music, develop liking for devotional songs, serving the society without being noticed- people go hospital and guide people to the correct facilities, charity and compassion, people are romantic even in keeping their homes and surrounding neat and clean and what not.

 

Sit quietly alone in a secluded place and try to recollect only the satisfaction, joy, happiness and solace you experienced when you were in the act. It is a difficult proposition; but not impossible, such an exercise is what meditation can do, an introduction to self.

 

Romance can never be suppressed it has to manifest itself in one way or the other, different ways for different persons at different times and situations: human beings temper that romantic behavior in tune with the social restrictions and consensual feeling with the object in view, this is attune with the behavior of the Supreme how long he waited before creation of the Universe perhaps billions of years.

 

Those who practice physical celibacy are always engaged in superlative forms of romance: different forms of art and literature, worship of the Lord, meditation, research, discoveries and inventions.  

 

Creativity and innovations are the two most sought after and rewarded faculties of humans in this era of professional management. These faculties are not new; they exist from the day the humans were seen on this planet. But fact is that they are subordinate to romance: only those can be creative who are romantic.

 

Romance is a feeling that is bubbling always ready to explode, always aware and responsive to surroundings and feelings of others in accompany. Majority of the romantic people are extroverts always happy and make others feel goodness of the surroundings and possessions what one has.

 

Romance is a fountain of positivity and keeps one optimistic with increased immunity and improved wellness.

 

Romance, Romance and Romance

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healthy, happy and longer.