Stress and Honesty A Wonderful Relationship

Stress and Honesty

A

Wonderful Relationship

“Honesty is the best policy.”

Benjamin Franklin.

A quote found most on the walls of the Indian Schools and taught in the moral science classes even these days.

“Honesty is very expensive gift do not expect it from cheap people.”

Warren Buffett

“Honesty is the best policy. If I lose mine, I lose myself.”

William Shakespeare

Honesty with whom and to whom, that is most important in the stress management techniques. The most common answer is, we should be honest in our dealing with others. Very true. If one is not honest with his friends, relatives and even his spouse possibility is that they may tolerate him once or twice or may be little more but ultimately they would stop their dealing or tell please mend your ways. In case you are dealing with strangers they would not allow you to be dishonest even once. Analytically one has to be honest in dealing with others for longtime relationship. Thus honesty is a forced trait in our dealings with others.

There is one person with whom you can afford to be dishonest as long as you desire. Who is that person? He is your own self.  

The greatest cause of stress is that as a human being, many a time we are not honest to ourselves. We are very close with dishonesty which exist more in humans than other animals.

We do not assess ourselves fairly & honestly and always desire more than we really deserve and that is root cause of stress in most of the situations. In fact, we do not talk to the most important person in our life i.e. our own-self sincerely. We try to bluff ourselves most of the times. But the fact of the matter is that our soul and conscious always give us the right decision and direction.

We cannot do wrong without ignoring the voice of our conscious. Learn to listen the voice of your soul that is voice of the God. Your conscious should be so clear that you should feel as if everything in your life is happening with your consent. How to talk to one self. There are many simple ways:

1. Make a prayer to Him. Let HIM guide you in moments of   

    distress.

2. Listen what HE has to say about your prayer. How. Spend  

    some time in  meditation.

3. Learn How to enjoy solitude –the state of being alone.

    Practice talking to self.

4. Recognize the voice of intuition.

    If still you are unable to listen the voice of you conscious then take a few steps as follows:

1. Jot down pros and cons sincerely.

2. Let there be Brainstorming session with self.

3. Consult the most trusted person.

If still, no results then go to universal institution of advice-your parents, if you still happen to have. For many oldies like me they have gone back to HIM long back so we depend on HIM or on our children.

If still nothing happens, it is certain, you are not honest with your own-self and have chosen to be under-stress.

Honesty with self means ethical, high morals, personal values, doing what is right and self-esteem and above all it needs guts, courage and conviction.

Honest is first pillar to de-stress.